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  • Bewust verbonden ademen: techniek en effecten

    Bewust verbonden ademen: techniek en effecten

    Als je bekend bent met ademwerk, heb je waarschijnlijk wel eens gehoord van de bewuste verbonden ademhaling. Je kent het misschien onder een andere naam, maar de basistechniek is deze:

    1. Ontspan je kaak, open wijd en adem door de mond
    2. Adem vol in de buik en borst
    3. Ontspan compleet tijdens het uitademen
    4. Verbind bewust je ademhaling, dus geen pauzes tussen inademing en uitademing

    (Een mildere versie doe je door in en uit te ademen door je neus.)

    10 minuten bewust verbonden ademen per keer kan al bijzondere resultaten opleveren. Je kunt diepe vrede ervaren, een verhoogd bewustzijn van het huidige moment, meer levendigheid in (delen van) je lichaam, evenals sterke emoties en uitbarstingen van gelach of huilen. 10 minuten bewust verbonden ademen is ook een geweldige manier om een ​​meditatie of creatieve sessie te beginnen (houd papier en pen bij de hand!).

    Het langer toepassen van de bewuste verbonden ademhaling zal je nog dieper brengen. Wees verstandig en begin je ademreis met een sessie onder begeleiding van een ademtrainer. Serieus, dit is sterk spul.

    Fysieke effecten van bewust verbonden ademen
    Op fysiek niveau zal het ademen van de bewuste verbonden ademhaling meer zuurstof naar je cellen brengen, de nervus vagus stimuleren die vele lichaamsdelen verbindt, het reptielenbrein aansporen en het autonome zenuwstelsel beïnvloeden.

    Je kunt allerlei soorten sensaties opmerken, variërend van kou, hitte, tintelingen en jeuk tot ticks, trillen, pijn of energiestromen en golven van extase. Dit zijn allemaal natuurlijke lichamelijke impulsen die we meestal neigen te onderdrukken. Creëer een veilige ruimte en laat de bewegingen maar komen. Je voelt je levendiger dan ooit tevoren.

    Emotionele effecten van bewust verbonden ademen
    Op emotioneel niveau kunnen er allerlei gevoelens ontstaan. Gelukzaligheid, lachen en vreugde of angst, woede en verdriet. Laat ze opkomen ​​en verdiep je ademhaling om de ervaring in te gaan of keer terug naar een normale ademhaling om getuige te zijn van het ontvouwen van emoties die in je lichaam zijn opgeslagen.

    Ga nu niet in op verhalen; het lichaam spreekt dit soort taal niet en het weet niets van je levensdrama. Het is genoeg om je emoties gewoon te laten opborrelen, uitspelen en vertrekken zoals ze willen.

    Spirituele effecten van bewust verbonden ademen
    Je kunt een gevoel van eenheid of heelheid voelen. Het gevoel van scheiding tussen je lichaam en de ‘buitenwereld’ kan geheel of gedeeltelijk verdwijnen. Je kunt een sterke intuïtie en innerlijk weten ervaren. Gedachten kunnen ophouden te bestaan ​​of hun belang verliezen. Je kunt onvoorwaardelijke liefde ervaren en de aard van het hele bestaan, inclusief jezelf, als diepe vrede herkennen.

    En dit is allemaal beschikbaar voor iedereen, gewoon door te ademen! Best gaaf, toch?

    Aan de andere kant kunnen ervaringen zoals de bovenstaande leiden tot verwarring en onbalans als we geen mentaal kader of leefomstandigheden hebben die helpen bij een gezonde integratie. Daarom is het raadzaam om het rustig aan te doen en de tijd te nemen om dit terrein in wijsheid en mildheid te verkennen. Zodoende kun je alles integreren en waar nodig begeleiding zoeken.

    Vragen? Zet ze in de comments en ik zal reageren.

  • Je bent niet kwetsbaar

    Het geluk toen je vijf was en een nieuwe fiets kreeg.
    De schrik toen je je arm brak op je achtste.
    De spanning van je eerste zoen op dat feestje toen je vijftien werd.
    De trots bij je promotie op je 26e.
    Het intense liefdesverdriet op je 30e en de opwinding toen je opnieuw verliefd werd, een jaar later.

    En ga zo maar door.

    Er was er eentje die het allemaal zag, stil en onbewogen.
    Die zag hoe je huilde, en er simpelweg was.
    Die niet kapot ging, ook al ging jij kapot.

    Kijk maar terug. Weet je nog? Je was het zelf.

    Wie jij bent, is niet wat je allemaal meemaakt. Niet wat je erbij voelt. En al helemaal niet wat je erover denkt.
    Wie jij bent, ten diepste, is zuiver bewustzijn.
    Dat is wat we allemaal ten diepste zijn, en het is één.

    Ondeelbaar en tijdloos. Je onverwoestbare kern.

    Dus je bent niet kwetsbaar. Als je jezelf kent voor wat je werkelijk bent, dan kun je niet meer stuk.
    Zelfs niet als je doodgaat.

    Kun je wel verdriet ervaren? Ja. Kun je ook ziek worden, een groot verlies lijden, genadeloos afgaan, beroofd worden, een ongeluk krijgen of je andere arm óók breken? Jazeker.

    Maar als je weet dat je dat aankunt, dan kun je voelen met elke vezel in je lijf, vechten met al je kracht en als dat niet gaat of hoeft, de nieuwe realiteit omarmen met al je liefde. Dan ben je vrij.

    Dat is niet kwetsbaar zijn, dat is kiezen om ten volle te leven.

    Dat wil niet zeggen dat je evenwicht soms niet broos kan zijn. Dat de emmer niet kan overlopen. Dat je niet in frustratie kunt uitbarsten en dat je soms niet van moedeloosheid in je bed blijft liggen. Maar dat is allemaal wat je doet, niet wie je bent, en het wordt veroorzaakt door wat je gelooft over jezelf.

    Wie je bent, ten diepste, is sterk, compleet en vreugdevol. En die kan alles aan. Dat is wáár over jou.

    Voel je je kwetsbaar? Observeer in mildheid je gevoelens en gedachten en wees je bewust dat er iemand meekijkt, stil en onbewogen, in liefde.

    Je ware ik.

    Reacties zijn heel welkom.

  • The Work of Byron Katie: a beautiful example for changemakers

    The Work of Byron Katie: a beautiful example for changemakers

    In this enlightening and entertaining video, you’ll see The Work by Byron Katie applied by a woman who holds strong grudges towards the meat industry.

    She quickly realises how her negative thoughts are preventing her from seeing clearly and compassionately. She comes to see how she has been a slave to her own thinking, and wakes up from that illusion.

    She comes out so much wiser and lighter, the truly powerful woman that she is.

    The video is a beautiful example both of The Work (a simple process for inner awakening) and of conscious activism.

  • Start with a sigh (breathe in…… let go)

    Start with a sigh (breathe in…… let go)

    Did you know that only breathing IN requires effort?
    Breathing out is simply a release.

    How it works:

    Breathing in, the diaphragm contracts, pulling down into the belly, creating a vacuüm in the lungs which are thereby filled with air…

    Breathing out: full release. Diaphragm relaxes and automatically moves back up, air flowing out effortlessly.

    This is your natural breath. Try it:

    1. Breathe in……. let go
    2. Breathe in……. let go
    3. Breathe in……. let go

    How did that go?

    You may well find that your ‘letting go’ is not so effortless at all. If so, you are probably (medical issues aside) unneccessarily restricting your outbreath somewhere in your body. Why? Because of stored stress and tension: the physical manifestation of unhelpful thoughts and feelings.

    Places we often notice people holding their breath include the belly, solar plexus, chest, shoulders, throat and lips. When we start to explore, we may find that some of these areas correspond to certain personal issues. One example:

    Nicole was struggling during her breath session. She was holding back the flow of breath in her throat and couldn’t find a rhythm. Her breathing became unbalanced and she started to cramp up. Noticing the tension in her throat, I then affirmed to her: it’s ok to express myself (in affirmations, we speak from the first person). Instantly, she started to cry. And then she released. Big sighs of relief she was breathing and what followed was an effortless, strong, rhythmic conscious connected breath in a soft, wide open throat. Beautiful.

    She later shared that it was the experience of finally allowing herself to let go that had the most impact for her. You see, it all starts with a sigh.

    Becoming aware of your outbreath you may find yourself sighing all day, like me when I started breathwork. That’s ok, in fact it’s perfect. That’s your body releasing unnecessary tension. You will feel happier and healthier because of it!

    Start with a sigh.

  • The 4-8 relaxation breath

    The 4-8 relaxation breath

    I’m sure you have heard of the fight or flight response. That’s when your adrenaline spikes, sending superhuman power to your arms and feet and razor sharp focus to your mind set to one thing: survive. Your breathing speed and heart rate go up. Blood flow is redirected from some of your organs to your extremities. You are alert and your body is tense, ready for action any moment.

    The relaxation response
    Now compare that to the other, less well known but equally valid state: the relaxation response. In this state, the body rests and digests. Muscle tension is low, blood flows to the digestive organs, energy levels are replenished and cells are being restored. Our heart beats slowly and the breath is slow, gentle, sometimes hardly noticeable.

    Using the breath, we can induce and/or sustain both these states. The 4-8 relaxation breath induces (you guessed it) the relaxation response.

    There are multiple methods for relaxation breathing. I like this one because it doesn’t require a holding of the breath. We can do this type of breathing in one continuous flow, which has its own amplifying benefits by shifting our consciousness to a more expanded awareness.

    Pain free birth
    The 4-8 relaxation breath is the breath that carried me painlessly all through the 13 hour birth of my daughter. Needless to say I am in love with it. The power I felt was grand. The surges were deep and consuming and had me moaning, yes, but I didn’t create any resistance in the process. My body was overflowing with love hormones and I was in full surrender to the contractions. I believe it was the 4-8 breath that carried me (and us) all the way through, along with the strong, loving presence of my beloved and the competence of the midwife.

    The 4-8 relaxation breath technique
    It’s very simple: breathe in for a count of 4 and out for a count of 8.

    On the in-breath, relax the jaw and shoulders. Use your diaphraghm for a nice and full chest-and-belly breath. Soften your belly, solar plexus and heart area.

    On the out-breath, make sure that some air remains in your lungs. Don’t press. Explore how to use your belly, chest, throat and lips in a healthy way to guide the duration of the breath flow.

    I like to breathe this breath to the count of my heartbeats. One thing I notice within two or three breaths is that my heartbeat slows down, an immediate effect of this breathing pattern. When you notice this, you also know that your blood pressure is dropping and your body is entering the restorative relaxation response. This also means that the breathing will take longer and longer every time.

    Stay connected with what feels right for you and don’t hold on to the counts when your body tells you otherwise. For example, when I was pregnant, breathing out for a count of 6 was often better than 8. It’s your body, your breath. The wisdom of you being alive in your body in this moment is infinitely greater than any range of numbers will ever be.

    Book tip
    From Harvard University’s Institute for Mind Body Medicine, there is a wonderful book about inducing the relaxation response and handy guide on how to apply it for healing various ailments: Relaxation Revolution.

  • Parenting with Presence (book tip)

    A little while ago, a friend had been cradling our then 13 month old daughter as she was struggling to sleep.

    “She required nothing but complete presence,” he said afterwards, “or she would cry.”

    Indeed, when he picked up a book, she would wake up and cry. For her to sleep, he had needed to sit with her in perfect stillness.

    Now how’s that for a Zen practice?

    But good parenting requires more. Perfect stillness at some times, creativity and strong action at others. And especially in those moments when it gets really hard, that’s where the magic happens: we either plant the seeds for further drama, or cut the chord connecting generations of suffering and set ourselves and our children free.

    In Parenting with Presence (Nederlands: Opvoeden in het Nu, Deutsch: Kindererziehung im Jetzt), Susan Stiffelman helps parents find peace, joy and transformation through the everyday encounters with their children. She gives many examples of how we can raise our children and ourselves to be conscious, compassionate and centered human beings.

    I loved this book. It made me even more aware of how connection is so important in any relationship – with myself, my child and my partner. It gave me a sense of lightness about parenting teenagers, which is not the phase that I am in yet but it will some day. And it is just super practical, going beyond wishful thinking pseudo-spiritual blabla into the knitty-gritty of real life parenting and its challenges.

    Recommended by Eckhart Tolle.

  • Chocolate Mango (beans & carrots!) No-Bake Cake

    Yesterday was my birthday. I spent the whole day in the kitchen before moving all the dishes over to my mom’s place who had graciously offered to host the family birthday party. It was a perfect day with some of my favorite people :).

    This no-bake cake consists of 3 layers plus a fruit topping. It is very dense- rich and filling, so be sure to serve tiny slices. The layers should be distinct in taste: fruity for the top and robust, full and indulgent for the chocolate middle layer.

    The beans make for a thick, fudgy chocolate cream. Be sure to add plenty of vanilla to get the richness that cacao deserves. Also, vanilla creates a sweet sensation so you’ll need less dates. You won’t taste the beans, I promise! People have been amazed at how well this works and… beans are good for you!

    The crunchy muesli makes for a great dough, especially the nuts one thanks to the healthy fats in there which make it rather buttery, but vegan and good for your heart! We happened to have two kinds of crunchy and it worked out great but if you have only one (preferably the nuts), that will work as well.

    I have only roughly estimated the amounts, I’m sure that when you’re in the kitchen getting your hands dirty and tasting lots (yay :P), things will sort themselves out.

    Recipe for Chocolate Mango (beans & carrots!) No-Bake Cake

    1. For the bottom layer:

    1-2 cups crunchy muesli with 4 red fruits
    dates to taste
    1-2 tablespoons coconut oil, melted

    2. For the chocolate layer:

    3-4 cups nut crunchy muesli with nuts
    2 cans of cooked black beans (rinse well)
    1 cup of cacao
    10-20 dates
    1 tablespoon vanilla
    2-3 tablespoons coconut oil
    pinch of salt

    3. For the carrot layer:

    1-2 cups crunchy muesli (either nuts of red fruits)
    2-3 carrots
    pieces of mango
    lemon juice and (part of) rind

    4. For the fruit layer:

    150-200 gr frozen mango pieces (or fresh if you’re in the right climate)
    handful of blueberries

    For layers 1, 2 and 3: for each layer separately, combine the ingredients in a food processor. Taste and adjust to improve taste and consistency. They should be sticky, sturdy and chewy.

    Press the bottom layer in the bottom of the cake form. Use a spoon to smoothly spread the mixture. Next, add in the chocolate layer. And finally, add in the carrot layer.

    Top off with a full layer of fruit, which you lightly press into the carrot layer. Enjoy now or refrigerate until shortly before use.

  • Water pouring into water

    Pondering the unspeakable

    And how to speak of it

    A thought comes:

    Life gave me life

    Water pouring into water

    Snap

    Visionary imagery

    Curtain radiant with being

    Then stillness –

    Timeless unity

    One an instant

    Eternal minute

    Mind no more

    Everything I

    Blissful smile

    Then back online:

    Hey, I should really write a blog about this.

  • The Presence Process (Guided Online Journey)

    The Presence Process (Guided Online Journey)

    I wanted to share something with you which has changed my life and could change yours.

    Have you ever heard of The Presence Process? It’s a book. And more than that, (you guessed it) it’s a process. It is a 10 week process that will make you feel happier, healthier and whole, creating unimagined shifts in your life.

    Its daily requirements: 2 x 15 minutes of breathwork, reading a few pages and emotional housekeeping. You’re going to meet every challenge you face during the day in a new way.

    It was invented by the author, Michael Brown who suffered from intense pains until he found his path to freedom and created this method. It offers a structure that will help you systematically identify the emotional patterns that underly all of your experiences.

    According to Michael, our earliest experiences create an imprint that keeps on repeating throughout our lives. This imprint shapes how we perceive everything that happens to us and everyone who comes across our path.

    Do you get it? This is very simple and very profound:

    Life may look like a multitude of happenings, people and circumstances, but these are actually many messengers presenting the same few messages – over and over and over again.

    The key to living in the moment and being happy is this: focus on the message (not the messenger) and feel it without resisting it. And as we start living in unconditional emotional responsability, present moment awareness shines as never before.

    It’s as simple as that. And it’s a total game changer.

    It’s very simple, but because of our wiring and conditioning, it can be hard to do. We’re so used to making stuff difficult, right?

    In my own life, The Presence Process has lifted a lifelong weight off my shoulders, freed up energy and literally brought in thousands of euros. That is the kind of change this process can bring. I wholeheartedly recommend doing it- not to change your circumstances (although they may), but to radically shift your outlook on life, moving from chasing after things to deep gratitude and abundance.

    Presence Process group

    With Presence as our facilitator and staying true to the book, I offer Presence Process groups 2-3 times per year, called The Presence Process Guided Online Journey. This guided online journey adds to The Presence Process: personal online breath guidance, group support, two live breath workshops, weekly summaries and reminders, tips for further exploration and more. Check it out here: The Presence Process Guided Online Journey or find me on Instagram.

  • Breastfeeding and the circle of life

    “It is pretty wonderful, this life cycle. I always found it interesting, how food is made and seeds grow and sunshine and rain become nutrition and we can eat and poo and seeds grow and so on. But now my body is taking that and making a whole new product and there is another little human being joining in my loop of life. I can’t get my head round it all. This brilliant earth. My brilliant digestive system.

    Baby, I can’t tell you what a pleasure it is to feed you
    Feet up in a dim-lit room, nothing but life between us
    Milky silent gulping, face a blissful rest
    Tiny fingers tapping on the spaces by my chest
    Bellies beat together, slowly in and out
    Heartbeats storm through tiny chest, tinted lips and mouth
    As I sit and wait, I gaze again at our cherry blossom tree
    As light to leaf to the air we breathe, now that system flows through me
    And as I gaze upon your face, pressed upon me
    I see the cycle,
    Our food recycled,
    As you gulp down sunshine energy”

    – Hollie McNish, from her wonderful book Nobody Told Me – Poetry and parenthood