Author: Juuth

  • Chocolate Mango (beans & carrots!) No-Bake Cake

    Yesterday was my birthday. I spent the whole day in the kitchen before moving all the dishes over to my mom’s place who had graciously offered to host the family birthday party. It was a perfect day with some of my favorite people :).

    This no-bake cake consists of 3 layers plus a fruit topping. It is very dense- rich and filling, so be sure to serve tiny slices. The layers should be distinct in taste: fruity for the top and robust, full and indulgent for the chocolate middle layer.

    The beans make for a thick, fudgy chocolate cream. Be sure to add plenty of vanilla to get the richness that cacao deserves. Also, vanilla creates a sweet sensation so you’ll need less dates. You won’t taste the beans, I promise! People have been amazed at how well this works and… beans are good for you!

    The crunchy muesli makes for a great dough, especially the nuts one thanks to the healthy fats in there which make it rather buttery, but vegan and good for your heart! We happened to have two kinds of crunchy and it worked out great but if you have only one (preferably the nuts), that will work as well.

    I have only roughly estimated the amounts, I’m sure that when you’re in the kitchen getting your hands dirty and tasting lots (yay :P), things will sort themselves out.

    Recipe for Chocolate Mango (beans & carrots!) No-Bake Cake

    1. For the bottom layer:

    1-2 cups crunchy muesli with 4 red fruits
    dates to taste
    1-2 tablespoons coconut oil, melted

    2. For the chocolate layer:

    3-4 cups nut crunchy muesli with nuts
    2 cans of cooked black beans (rinse well)
    1 cup of cacao
    10-20 dates
    1 tablespoon vanilla
    2-3 tablespoons coconut oil
    pinch of salt

    3. For the carrot layer:

    1-2 cups crunchy muesli (either nuts of red fruits)
    2-3 carrots
    pieces of mango
    lemon juice and (part of) rind

    4. For the fruit layer:

    150-200 gr frozen mango pieces (or fresh if you’re in the right climate)
    handful of blueberries

    For layers 1, 2 and 3: for each layer separately, combine the ingredients in a food processor. Taste and adjust to improve taste and consistency. They should be sticky, sturdy and chewy.

    Press the bottom layer in the bottom of the cake form. Use a spoon to smoothly spread the mixture. Next, add in the chocolate layer. And finally, add in the carrot layer.

    Top off with a full layer of fruit, which you lightly press into the carrot layer. Enjoy now or refrigerate until shortly before use.

  • Durf jij je kind te laten lijden?

    Oh, dat klinkt verschrikkelijk: je kind laten lijden. En wat ik natuurlijk vooral niet bedoel, is dat je je kind wat aandoet.

    Maar wat als je kindje is gevallen, pijn heeft, geschrokken is en huilt?
    Of als het niet meer in de speeltuin mag, terwijl het zo graag nog van de glijbaan wil?
    Als zijn knuffeltje kwijt is, haar fiets stuk is, de hond dood of de juf weg gaat?

    Het beste wat je dan kunt doen, is je kind de gelegenheid geven om te treuren, huilen, auwen en balen.

    Durf jij dat?

    Veel mensen kunnen het moeilijk aanzien als hun kind pijn of verdriet heeft. Ze proberen het snel weg te maken.
    Met iets lekkers (kom, we gaan een ijsje halen),
    een belofte (straks thuis mag je een filmpje kijken),
    een dreigement (als je nou niet gauw meekomt, blijf je de rest van de dag binnen zitten),
    een oordeel (je bent toch geen watje)
    of een ontkenning (kom, zo erg is het niet, niks aan de hand, sta maar weer op).

    Maar verdriet hoort bij het leven. Net als afscheid, schrik, pijn en verlies.
    Als je kind niet in de speeltuin mag blijven, is dat een verlies.
    En aan jouw reactie ziet je kind hoe het daarmee moet omgaan.

    Dus wat doe je? Je blijft bij je kind, met twee zachte armen en een rechte rug. En je helpt je kind om het verdriet te verwerken.

    Je kunt het ook benoemen: “Jij wilt heel graag nog in de speeltuin blijven hè? En voel je je nou verdrietig/gefrustreerd/boos/… omdat we toch naar huis gaan?” en zo je kind helpen te begrijpen en verwoorden wat er aan de hand is. Mild en met aandacht, zonder zelf drama of paniek te doen.

    Jouw aanwezigheid is het allerbelangrijkst.

    Dat vraagt moed, want veel liever dan je kind te zien huilen, zie je het natuurlijk lachen.

    Dus dan komt de grote gewetensvraag voor bewuste ouders: hoe ga ik zelf eigenlijk met mijn uitdagingen om?

  • Bewust verbonden ademen: techniek en effecten

    Bewust verbonden ademen: techniek en effecten

    Als je bekend bent met ademwerk, heb je waarschijnlijk wel eens gehoord van de bewuste verbonden ademhaling. Je kent het misschien onder een andere naam, maar de basistechniek is deze:

    1. Ontspan je kaak, open wijd en adem door de mond
    2. Adem vol in de buik en borst
    3. Ontspan compleet tijdens het uitademen
    4. Verbind bewust je ademhaling, dus geen pauzes tussen inademing en uitademing

    (Een mildere versie doe je door in en uit te ademen door je neus.)

    10 minuten bewust verbonden ademen per keer kan al bijzondere resultaten opleveren. Je kunt diepe vrede ervaren, een verhoogd bewustzijn van het huidige moment, meer levendigheid in (delen van) je lichaam, evenals sterke emoties en uitbarstingen van gelach of huilen. 10 minuten bewust verbonden ademen is ook een geweldige manier om een ​​meditatie of creatieve sessie te beginnen (houd papier en pen bij de hand!).

    Het langer toepassen van de bewuste verbonden ademhaling zal je nog dieper brengen. Wees verstandig en begin je ademreis met een sessie onder begeleiding van een ademtrainer. Serieus, dit is sterk spul.

    Fysieke effecten van bewust verbonden ademen
    Op fysiek niveau zal het ademen van de bewuste verbonden ademhaling meer zuurstof naar je cellen brengen, de nervus vagus stimuleren die vele lichaamsdelen verbindt, het reptielenbrein aansporen en het autonome zenuwstelsel beïnvloeden.

    Je kunt allerlei soorten sensaties opmerken, variërend van kou, hitte, tintelingen en jeuk tot ticks, trillen, pijn of energiestromen en golven van extase. Dit zijn allemaal natuurlijke lichamelijke impulsen die we meestal neigen te onderdrukken. Creëer een veilige ruimte en laat de bewegingen maar komen. Je voelt je levendiger dan ooit tevoren.

    Emotionele effecten van bewust verbonden ademen
    Op emotioneel niveau kunnen er allerlei gevoelens ontstaan. Gelukzaligheid, lachen en vreugde of angst, woede en verdriet. Laat ze opkomen ​​en verdiep je ademhaling om de ervaring in te gaan of keer terug naar een normale ademhaling om getuige te zijn van het ontvouwen van emoties die in je lichaam zijn opgeslagen.

    Ga nu niet in op verhalen; het lichaam spreekt dit soort taal niet en het weet niets van je levensdrama. Het is genoeg om je emoties gewoon te laten opborrelen, uitspelen en vertrekken zoals ze willen.

    Spirituele effecten van bewust verbonden ademen
    Je kunt een gevoel van eenheid of heelheid voelen. Het gevoel van scheiding tussen je lichaam en de ‘buitenwereld’ kan geheel of gedeeltelijk verdwijnen. Je kunt een sterke intuïtie en innerlijk weten ervaren. Gedachten kunnen ophouden te bestaan ​​of hun belang verliezen. Je kunt onvoorwaardelijke liefde ervaren en de aard van het hele bestaan, inclusief jezelf, als diepe vrede herkennen.

    En dit is allemaal beschikbaar voor iedereen, gewoon door te ademen! Best gaaf, toch?

    Aan de andere kant kunnen ervaringen zoals de bovenstaande leiden tot verwarring en onbalans als we geen mentaal kader of leefomstandigheden hebben die helpen bij een gezonde integratie. Daarom is het raadzaam om het rustig aan te doen en de tijd te nemen om dit terrein in wijsheid en mildheid te verkennen. Zodoende kun je alles integreren en waar nodig begeleiding zoeken.

    Vragen? Zet ze in de comments en ik zal reageren.

  • You are not vulnerable

    The joy when you were five and got a new bicycle.
    The shock when you broke your arm when you were eight.
    The thrill of your first kiss on your fifteenth birthday party.
    The pride of your promotion at the age of 26.
    The intense heartbreak at 30 and the excitement when you fell in love again, a year later.

    And so on.

    There was one who witnessed it all, still and unmoved.
    Who witnessed how you cried, and simply were there.
    Who didn’t have a scratch when you were shattered.

    Look back. Remember? It was you yourself.

    Who you are is not everything you go through. Not what you feel about it. And certainly not what you think about it.
    Who you are, deep down, is pure consciousness.
    That is what we all are fundamentally, and it is one.

    Indivisible and timeless. Your indestructible core.

    So You are not vulnerable. If you know yourself for what you really are, then you cannot be hurt.
    Not even if you die.

    Can you experience grief? Yes. Can you also get sick, suffer a great loss, make a fool out of yourself, get robbed, have an accident or break your other arm too? Hell yes.

    But if you know that You can handle that, then you can feel with every fiber in your body, fight with all your strength and if you don’t want or need to, embrace the new reality with all your love. Then you are free.

    That is not being vulnerable, that is choosing to live fully.

    That’s not to say your balance can’t be fragile at times. That the bucket cannot overflow. That you cannot burst out in anger and that you do not sometimes stay in bed from despair. But that’s all what you do, not who you are, and it’s caused by what you believe about yourself.

    Who you are, deep down, is strong, complete and joyful. It can handle anything. That is true about you.

    Do you feel vulnerable? Gently observe your feelings and thoughts and be aware that someone is watching, still and unmoved, in love.

    Your true I.

    Comments are very welcome.

  • Je bent niet kwetsbaar

    Het geluk toen je vijf was en een nieuwe fiets kreeg.
    De schrik toen je je arm brak op je achtste.
    De spanning van je eerste zoen op dat feestje toen je vijftien werd.
    De trots bij je promotie op je 26e.
    Het intense liefdesverdriet op je 30e en de opwinding toen je opnieuw verliefd werd, een jaar later.

    En ga zo maar door.

    Er was er eentje die het allemaal zag, stil en onbewogen.
    Die zag hoe je huilde, en er simpelweg was.
    Die niet kapot ging, ook al ging jij kapot.

    Kijk maar terug. Weet je nog? Je was het zelf.

    Wie jij bent, is niet wat je allemaal meemaakt. Niet wat je erbij voelt. En al helemaal niet wat je erover denkt.
    Wie jij bent, ten diepste, is zuiver bewustzijn.
    Dat is wat we allemaal ten diepste zijn, en het is één.

    Ondeelbaar en tijdloos. Je onverwoestbare kern.

    Dus je bent niet kwetsbaar. Als je jezelf kent voor wat je werkelijk bent, dan kun je niet meer stuk.
    Zelfs niet als je doodgaat.

    Kun je wel verdriet ervaren? Ja. Kun je ook ziek worden, een groot verlies lijden, genadeloos afgaan, beroofd worden, een ongeluk krijgen of je andere arm óók breken? Jazeker.

    Maar als je weet dat je dat aankunt, dan kun je voelen met elke vezel in je lijf, vechten met al je kracht en als dat niet gaat of hoeft, de nieuwe realiteit omarmen met al je liefde. Dan ben je vrij.

    Dat is niet kwetsbaar zijn, dat is kiezen om ten volle te leven.

    Dat wil niet zeggen dat je evenwicht soms niet broos kan zijn. Dat de emmer niet kan overlopen. Dat je niet in frustratie kunt uitbarsten en dat je soms niet van moedeloosheid in je bed blijft liggen. Maar dat is allemaal wat je doet, niet wie je bent, en het wordt veroorzaakt door wat je gelooft over jezelf.

    Wie je bent, ten diepste, is sterk, compleet en vreugdevol. En die kan alles aan. Dat is wáár over jou.

    Voel je je kwetsbaar? Observeer in mildheid je gevoelens en gedachten en wees je bewust dat er iemand meekijkt, stil en onbewogen, in liefde.

    Je ware ik.

    Reacties zijn heel welkom.

  • The Work of Byron Katie: a beautiful example for changemakers

    The Work of Byron Katie: a beautiful example for changemakers

    In this enlightening and entertaining video, you’ll see The Work by Byron Katie applied by a woman who holds strong grudges towards the meat industry.

    She quickly realises how her negative thoughts are preventing her from seeing clearly and compassionately. She comes to see how she has been a slave to her own thinking, and wakes up from that illusion.

    She comes out so much wiser and lighter, the truly powerful woman that she is.

    The video is a beautiful example both of The Work (a simple process for inner awakening) and of conscious activism.

  • Start with a sigh (breathe in…… let go)

    Start with a sigh (breathe in…… let go)

    Did you know that only breathing IN requires effort?
    Breathing out is simply a release.

    How it works:

    Breathing in, the diaphragm contracts, pulling down into the belly, creating a vacuüm in the lungs which are thereby filled with air…

    Breathing out: full release. Diaphragm relaxes and automatically moves back up, air flowing out effortlessly.

    This is your natural breath. Try it:

    1. Breathe in……. let go
    2. Breathe in……. let go
    3. Breathe in……. let go

    How did that go?

    You may well find that your ‘letting go’ is not so effortless at all. If so, you are probably (medical issues aside) unneccessarily restricting your outbreath somewhere in your body. Why? Because of stored stress and tension: the physical manifestation of unhelpful thoughts and feelings.

    Places we often notice people holding their breath include the belly, solar plexus, chest, shoulders, throat and lips. When we start to explore, we may find that some of these areas correspond to certain personal issues. One example:

    Nicole was struggling during her breath session. She was holding back the flow of breath in her throat and couldn’t find a rhythm. Her breathing became unbalanced and she started to cramp up. Noticing the tension in her throat, I then affirmed to her: it’s ok to express myself (in affirmations, we speak from the first person). Instantly, she started to cry. And then she released. Big sighs of relief she was breathing and what followed was an effortless, strong, rhythmic conscious connected breath in a soft, wide open throat. Beautiful.

    She later shared that it was the experience of finally allowing herself to let go that had the most impact for her. You see, it all starts with a sigh.

    Becoming aware of your outbreath you may find yourself sighing all day, like me when I started breathwork. That’s ok, in fact it’s perfect. That’s your body releasing unnecessary tension. You will feel happier and healthier because of it!

    Start with a sigh.

  • Top 5 site-uri cu pornografie gratuita

    Pornografia este unul dintre cele mai cautate subiecte online.

    Este chiar mai popular decat jucariile sexuale sau gif-urile erotice.

    Vizionarea pornografiei NSFW este de obicei considerata divertisment linistit, privat.

    Unii vizitatori folosesc un VPN atunci cand urmaresc porno online pentru a avea protejata confidentialitatea.

    1. Evil Angel

    Evil Angel are o biblioteca uriasa de videoclipuri pentru adulti de inalta calitate, care sunt disponibile pentru streaming si descarcare in aplicatia lor porno mobila.

    Concentrarea lor asupra calitatii in detrimentul cantitatii asigura ca fiecare scena este filmata cu camere si iluminare de top pentru a crea o experienta captivanta care se simte la fel de bine pe cat arata.

    Gama lor diversa de scene include totul, de la joc BDSM dur pana la gangbang-uri intense, asa ca sunteti sigur ca veti gasi ceva care sa va satisfaca poftele. In plus, caracteristicile comunitatii lor incluzive ajuta la promovarea discutiilor despre sexualitate si consimtamant.

    Cu toate acestea, natura extrema a continutului lor poate fi prea declansatoare pentru unii.

    Ca si in cazul oricarei pornografii, este important sa acordati intotdeauna prioritate consimtamantului si ingrijirii de sine atunci cand consumati acest tip de continut. Acest lucru este deosebit de important daca experimentati orice forma de trauma sau dependenta.

    2. FILMEXXX18

    FILMEXXX18 este un site porno premium care ofera filme, fotografii si continut scris.

    Este cunoscut pentru spectacolele feminine sexy si pentru o experienta eleganta si lina.

    Membrii se pot bucura de filme cu sex oral, blonde, kink, schimb de cuplu, configuratie pentru amatori si multe altele.

    Site-ul are, de asemenea, o zona de blog cu povesti si fotografii obraznice si o sectiune de reviste pentru membrii sai.

    Proprietarul, incearca sa transmita mesaje pozitive despre placerea femeilor prin continut sau film.

    Aceasta distinctie o diferentiaza de tuburile care promoveaza continut hardcore, adesea violent.

    Ea spune ca telespectatorii au afirmat ca apreciaza accentul pus pe consimtamant si pe placerea feminina.

    Terapeutii si expertii in relatii sexuale au recomandat chiar si site-ul clientilor lor.

    3. Bellesa

    Frustrata de pornografia misogina si de lipsa de optiuni pentru femei, Michelle Schnaidman a lansat Bellesa in 2017 pentru a oferi o platforma online indrazneata unde femeile pot viziona sau citi erotice, pot cumpara jucarii sexuale si sa-si sarbatoreasca sexualitatea fara impedimente.

    Cu sediul in Montreal, compania ofera o mare varietate de servicii, inclusiv productie de filme pentru adulti, erotica scrisa si resurse de educatie sexuala, toate destinate publicului feminin.

    Compania a fost laudata pe scara larga, inclusiv de Bustle.

    Cu toate acestea, o problema majora a fost adusa in discutie de actorii sexuali, care au subliniat ca Bellesa incorporeaza videoclipuri care costa bani, dar nu platesc oamenii care le-au facut.

    Acesta este un pas gresit pentru o companie care pretinde a fi feminista.

    De atunci, site-ul a schimbat aceasta practica. 

    De asemenea, ofera un magazin de jucarii condus de femei, numit BBoutique.

    4. OnlyFans

    OnlyFans este o platforma care permite utilizatorilor sa posteze fotografii si videoclipuri nud.

    Cu toate acestea, nu este lipsit de riscurile sale.

    De exemplu, creatorii se confrunta adesea cu probleme de confidentialitate cu continutul lor atunci cand fanii fac capturi de ecran sau il distribuie online.

    Acest lucru se numeste “razbunarea porno” si se intampla din ce in ce mai frecvent.

    Site-ul a fost conceput initial pentru a reduce decalajul dintre creatori si abonatii lor, oferind continut media exclusiv.

    A castigat popularitate in timpul pandemiei de COVID-19, cand multi s-au apucat de el pentru a castiga bani.

    OnlyFans ia in serios restrictiile de varsta si interzice utilizatorii sub 18 ani. 

    De asemenea, colecteaza informatii despre dispozitiv si retea. Este recomandat sa utilizati un card preplatit atunci cand va abonati sau dati bacsis, astfel incat tranzactiile sa nu apara in extrasul dvs. bancar.

    In acest fel, puteti ramane anonim si puteti evita orice probleme financiare.

    5. Reality Kings

    Reteaua Reality Kings ofera peste 37 de site-uri de plata cu continut divers pentru adulti.

    Numeroasele sale scene populare atrag fanii BBW, sanii mari, gang bang-uri si multe altele.

    Site-ul include si interviuri cu vedete precum Cory Chase, un model de fitness care a castigat premii si nominalizari AVN.

    Site-ul isi organizeaza continutul pentru adulti in etichete populare care faciliteaza gasirea videoclipurilor.

    De asemenea, ofera o varietate de genuri pentru a se potrivi diferitelor gusturi, inclusiv romantism delicat si hardcore explicit.

    Accentul sau asupra fericirii clientilor se reflecta in numeroasele sale marturii pozitive.

    Calitatea de membru ofera acces la continut si avantaje exclusive, inclusiv o comunitate plina de viata si reduceri speciale la produse si evenimente. De asemenea, accepta streamingul mobil, ceea ce face usor sa va bucurati de continut oriunde. Acest lucru il face o alegere de top pentru divertismentul pentru adulti pregatit pentru mobil.

  • We are social by nature (Jean Liedloff: The Continuum Concept)

    “You get what you expect in life, not what you want.”
    – Jean Liedloff

    A beautiful video about nurturing your kids with proximity, touch and the crucial practice of letting them explore the world by themselves.

    About trusting nature, our natural talents and our innate tendency to live up to social expectations – and how the latter can both benefit and damage us!

    • How can we keep our little ones safe – and what really is safety?
    • How can we teach them responsible behavior?
    • How do we stop inadvertedly communicating to our kids that we do not believe they are capable of the task we are asking them to do?
    • How do many of our common practices in hospital, daycare or home environment instill a sense of ‘something is wrong with me’… and what can we do about it?
    • And what are the societal implications of this misguided behavior we as adults show towards kids?
    • Moreover, how can we learn from indigenous cultures to restore our connection to our natural talents?

    If you only want to see one strong example of how we inadvertedly teach our kids to be dependent and incapable, watch the example of Donovan and his mother starting at 34′.  But truly the whole video is worth watching.

    I found Jean a bit strong in her expressions in the beginning of the video but then I realised that she was speaking in a different time, from a different culture and that probably much of her work and tone are the reason I can now be a bit more relaxed about it.

    We have instinctively been practicing the principles Jean mentions in this video. It feels only natural to nurture a deep and close connection with our kid (now 14 months old) while giving her space to explore the world and learn from ‘mistakes’.

    This video (recommended by a dear friend) has been a huge inspiration and encouragement. We also took a few tips from it and I feel grateful to now understand one change I need to make: I will not raise my finger anymore to impose my authority. In the video, Jean will explain why.

    Jean Liedloff’s has written The Continuum Concept.

    The learnings I took from Jean also connect closely to Susan Stiffelman’s in Parenting with Presence, which I wrote about here.

  • The 4-8 relaxation breath

    The 4-8 relaxation breath

    I’m sure you have heard of the fight or flight response. That’s when your adrenaline spikes, sending superhuman power to your arms and feet and razor sharp focus to your mind set to one thing: survive. Your breathing speed and heart rate go up. Blood flow is redirected from some of your organs to your extremities. You are alert and your body is tense, ready for action any moment.

    The relaxation response
    Now compare that to the other, less well known but equally valid state: the relaxation response. In this state, the body rests and digests. Muscle tension is low, blood flows to the digestive organs, energy levels are replenished and cells are being restored. Our heart beats slowly and the breath is slow, gentle, sometimes hardly noticeable.

    Using the breath, we can induce and/or sustain both these states. The 4-8 relaxation breath induces (you guessed it) the relaxation response.

    There are multiple methods for relaxation breathing. I like this one because it doesn’t require a holding of the breath. We can do this type of breathing in one continuous flow, which has its own amplifying benefits by shifting our consciousness to a more expanded awareness.

    Pain free birth
    The 4-8 relaxation breath is the breath that carried me painlessly all through the 13 hour birth of my daughter. Needless to say I am in love with it. The power I felt was grand. The surges were deep and consuming and had me moaning, yes, but I didn’t create any resistance in the process. My body was overflowing with love hormones and I was in full surrender to the contractions. I believe it was the 4-8 breath that carried me (and us) all the way through, along with the strong, loving presence of my beloved and the competence of the midwife.

    The 4-8 relaxation breath technique
    It’s very simple: breathe in for a count of 4 and out for a count of 8.

    On the in-breath, relax the jaw and shoulders. Use your diaphraghm for a nice and full chest-and-belly breath. Soften your belly, solar plexus and heart area.

    On the out-breath, make sure that some air remains in your lungs. Don’t press. Explore how to use your belly, chest, throat and lips in a healthy way to guide the duration of the breath flow.

    I like to breathe this breath to the count of my heartbeats. One thing I notice within two or three breaths is that my heartbeat slows down, an immediate effect of this breathing pattern. When you notice this, you also know that your blood pressure is dropping and your body is entering the restorative relaxation response. This also means that the breathing will take longer and longer every time.

    Stay connected with what feels right for you and don’t hold on to the counts when your body tells you otherwise. For example, when I was pregnant, breathing out for a count of 6 was often better than 8. It’s your body, your breath. The wisdom of you being alive in your body in this moment is infinitely greater than any range of numbers will ever be.

    Book tip
    From Harvard University’s Institute for Mind Body Medicine, there is a wonderful book about inducing the relaxation response and handy guide on how to apply it for healing various ailments: Relaxation Revolution.